The Power of a Good Woman’s Love

There is some intrinsic magic in the relationship with the parent of the opposite sex. You see Mama’s boys all the time. Similarly, the world is full of Daddy’s girls.

My daughter, Chantalle, was about a year and a half old when I realised, “This little girl is controlling me!” From that point, I made a conscious effort to counteract this default relational dynamic.

When a man loves a woman, wherever she leads, he will follow.

Most teen girls and women are fully aware of this power that they possess over the males in their lives, who care about them, and wish to remain in their good books.

By the time they exit adolescence, one would hope that most ladies CHOOSE to use their influence over the boys, male adolescents and men in their lives, only for their good, and never as a powerful tool of manipulation.

Hence why I chose to focus specifically on the Power of a good woman’s love.

Many of us are familiar with the story of Samson and Delilah, in the biblical narrative. Though likely the strongest man on earth, his weakness for her sweetness, precipitated Samson’s eventual undoing.

Delilah made it clear, by her repeated attempts to learn the source of his strength, that she meant him no good. Yet Samson, mesmerized by what she gave him, either emotionally or sexually, seemed powerless to sever ties with this woman. His association with her cost him his eyesight, his freedom, then his life.

I believe that it is rare for a man to achieve his full potential without a woman (or a series of women) in his life – mom, grandma, aunts, older sisters and a romantic partner or wife.

If his mother remains his most significant positive influence and mentor, well into his adult years, the relationship has probably become codependent. This is also the case where a father holds too tightly, onto the bond with his daughter, depending on her to meet his emotional needs, rather than pushing her toward greater autonomy and full independence.

A quality woman, who is his romantic partner, propels a man forward in many areas, during important stages of his life, and when facing crises.

This visual image spoke volumes to me.

Leroy sat in church, beside his wife, Colleen, listening to his brother, a pastor, preaching their dad’s funeral sermon. Notice the position of Colleen’s hand, resting lightly on Leroy’s shoulder – a gentle, not overpowering, touch, reminding him that she is there for him.

The greatest blessing of a committed romantic love is companionship. When a man begins the grief journey, after losing a loved one to death, there is nobody else that you need in your corner more than she, to whom you gave your heart.

Shared grief can actually strengthen the relationship.