Single again. Now what?

Hi there. It probably makes little difference to your heart whether you:

- were married or not.

- are gay or straight.

- young or old.

If you lost your beloved, the one to whom you committed your all; if ought but death separated you, right now, you are probably feeling pretty bummed out -- and anything but pretty (or handsome).

Rejection hurts.

How you handle this crisis is up to you. The choices and decisions that you are currently making (especially attitudinally) are going to determine:

- how long the healing process will take.

- how bumpy the journey will be once you pass through the first gloomy wilderness days/weeks/months.

- whether or not you get stuck in one of the stages of the grieving process.

As one who has already traversed these stormy emotional seas, here are my recommendations to help you sail across your tumultuous emotional sea without capsizing too often.

- If you have children, do NOT ever say or do anything that could negatively impact their relationship with their other parent [your ex or the one from whom you are currently separated]. There's a reason why God gave each of us two parents. You are only 50% of the child raising team.

- Actively support your ex in all things pertaining to the children.

The child(ren) have also sustained a great loss. They did not choose to leave, nor to be left behind. Children are the innocent victims/casualties in all of this.